What girl doesn't want a man that has money. Every since childhood we hear of prince charming coming and saving the girl,broke men can't do that. So we fantasize what he will be like and sometimes over-look the average joe's. What fairytales don't share is that most men that have money are either assholes or to guarded due to females. Gold diggers,what really classifieds a woman as a gold-digger? Is it cause she uses what she has to get what she wants?. I mean some men can see it coming and don't have a problem spending the money as long as they are satisfied in return. So to me its like a barter system(one trade for another).
My friend Tia will not date a man that doesn't come with money,she thinks she deserves better and will only be with those that can give it to her. We all want that but in many cases that doesn't happen so we date the regulars. One would think to be envious of her gifts, trips and overall lifestyle but there are things that we have that she may never get to witness. They say its the small things that matter most but with the men she dates its never small only grand gestures to substitute for their lack of knowing one another. She will never meet his family, never know his whereabouts or his true feelings cause they have an arrangement. Who does Tia call when she has a bad day, feels sick or needs some help,not the man she's digging for gold from.
So when it boils down to love or money which side are you pulling for?
May 20, 2010
May 12, 2010
I need a FIX!
I'm sure like most people we all have a secret person that we keep in the back pocket for a lil tune up. Well my mechanic is Devon and he is very skilled at his job. I have known Devon most of my life(our families are very close). We first met at age seven when he was an annoying lil boy but years later and I would be singing another tune. Every year our families throw a joint event and for the first time in years I would come face to face with my admirer. No longer was he a frail boy with coke bottle glasses instead was now 6'feet tall and his gray eyes were much more noticeable. At the event we exchange numbers and decided to go on a date to catch up.The night we got together we did the whole dinner and drinks just to talk an get comfortable but once all that was said and done we finally shared a kiss that was years in the making. We only kissed once before at age thirteen at my cousin's house he was leaving and before he did he knocked on the room door, locked it behind him, drew me in and we were face to face for a brief moment before I grazed his cheek and went in for it. No words were ever spoken during that moment. It was like I knew what he wanted cause I wanted it too. Funny what we remember.
Fast forward years later to our date night together it was fun and light-hearted until he invited me back to his home. We watched a movie but not for long. Devon pulled out all the stops and I didn't deny him I'm mean we've been playing this cat and mouse game for far too long. With the kisses to come he picked me up and carried me to his bedroom then soaked up every body part of mine.You get the picture I don't have to paint it. It was hot,exhausting and exhilarating.I just couldn't believe that the lil boy I knew was making me feel this way….uh he definitely grew up. Within the weeks passing I saw him often keeping it to myself and taking it all in.I know this situation of ours couldn't last long but it was an enjoyable ride that was needed.He gave me what I wanted when I wanted it and who would argue with that?
Fast forward years later to our date night together it was fun and light-hearted until he invited me back to his home. We watched a movie but not for long. Devon pulled out all the stops and I didn't deny him I'm mean we've been playing this cat and mouse game for far too long. With the kisses to come he picked me up and carried me to his bedroom then soaked up every body part of mine.You get the picture I don't have to paint it. It was hot,exhausting and exhilarating.I just couldn't believe that the lil boy I knew was making me feel this way….uh he definitely grew up. Within the weeks passing I saw him often keeping it to myself and taking it all in.I know this situation of ours couldn't last long but it was an enjoyable ride that was needed.He gave me what I wanted when I wanted it and who would argue with that?
May 04, 2010
U Gotta Feed ME 1st
Let that dating scene begin. Something about NY in the summer time makes me super excited. Hot weather, less clothes and many rooftops bars to take in. Seriously the best time and place to be single. After failed attempts in the relationship world I was ready to be by myself and enjoy the company of the opposite sex as much as possible. Well with that said some of them were great and others just plain out there to the point where I had to change my number. Each one was interesting so I'm gonna start with the Malik.
Randomly shopping in a shoe store this guy walks up behind me asking if we can talk. I had tunnel vision on the shoes so I didn't even see where he came from. We talked for a minute but I was determined to buy something so I just gave him my # to get on with my day. That night me and Malik spoke for hours about his job(which was a good one) and our soon to be date, not gonna lie I was excited. For some reason we picked for our 1st date to be on a Sunday and do a movie and whatever may follow. Early that day he said he had to work which was strange to me since he had a city job and it was M-F. Well to my surprise he was was security at the GAP, I didn't want to act uppity and and judge him but WTF! I ended up meeting him at the theater and that part was cool I mean it has to be we hardly talked. Afterwards, I was hungry and suggested that food be our next move but he wasn't trying eat or more so not tryna pay for it. So we did a stroll thru central park and talked the day away, the conversation was flowing but he asked the question I hate the most on a first date let alone the first week. Out of nowhere he asked what was my favorite sex position and proceeded to tell me what he likes and what he can do. Pause…… I'm over the date already. Malik even had the nerve to suggest how good we will be together, how about NO. I tried to avoid the conversation altogether and move forward. After the train ride home and raiding of the kitchen he called and trIed to fix the inserted foot in his mouth. We talked for no more then one more week and every time I tried to say lets go get something to eat he always had an excuse, like his boss ordered food and treated the staff to lunch so he was stuffed. Ok ,that may be true but not twice in a week and when I suggested he just come with so I could eat he was fine with that. I mean dang was it that serious? Malik was a short time and sadly tried linking up later in the year but I had a surprise for him, number was changed soon after. One thing I learned from him is that I will not let a guy tried to talk to me by talking about sex to soon. I know that sex is always on a guys mind but if you want it don't talk about it too early just a suggestion. Malik… out , who got next?
Randomly shopping in a shoe store this guy walks up behind me asking if we can talk. I had tunnel vision on the shoes so I didn't even see where he came from. We talked for a minute but I was determined to buy something so I just gave him my # to get on with my day. That night me and Malik spoke for hours about his job(which was a good one) and our soon to be date, not gonna lie I was excited. For some reason we picked for our 1st date to be on a Sunday and do a movie and whatever may follow. Early that day he said he had to work which was strange to me since he had a city job and it was M-F. Well to my surprise he was was security at the GAP, I didn't want to act uppity and and judge him but WTF! I ended up meeting him at the theater and that part was cool I mean it has to be we hardly talked. Afterwards, I was hungry and suggested that food be our next move but he wasn't trying eat or more so not tryna pay for it. So we did a stroll thru central park and talked the day away, the conversation was flowing but he asked the question I hate the most on a first date let alone the first week. Out of nowhere he asked what was my favorite sex position and proceeded to tell me what he likes and what he can do. Pause…… I'm over the date already. Malik even had the nerve to suggest how good we will be together, how about NO. I tried to avoid the conversation altogether and move forward. After the train ride home and raiding of the kitchen he called and trIed to fix the inserted foot in his mouth. We talked for no more then one more week and every time I tried to say lets go get something to eat he always had an excuse, like his boss ordered food and treated the staff to lunch so he was stuffed. Ok ,that may be true but not twice in a week and when I suggested he just come with so I could eat he was fine with that. I mean dang was it that serious? Malik was a short time and sadly tried linking up later in the year but I had a surprise for him, number was changed soon after. One thing I learned from him is that I will not let a guy tried to talk to me by talking about sex to soon. I know that sex is always on a guys mind but if you want it don't talk about it too early just a suggestion. Malik… out , who got next?
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