So I have come to realize or rather forced to realize that black men love women with preferably long hair and if you did at one point and then decide to try something new that can be an issue. As a teenager I had mid-length hair you know typical NY girl with the doobie. It never occurred to me that my hair was an asset at the time. Now that I’m older I see that maybe I should have appreciated it. Within the last year I got a wake up call when it came to men and hair. Yes, my hair is shorter and its to the point where it’s the shortest it’s ever been. Last summer I met three different guys within a month (they have a lot more going for them which will be displayed in later blogs) but for now I’ll call them BOYS 1.2.3.
Boy #1, was a tad older and thought he was in the industry enough where he could say whatever the fuck he wanted. 1st date he asked if my hair was my own and then proceeded to check as he ran his fingers through it. Pet peeve of mine (don’t touch my hair unless I allow it). Anyway, I let that slide and continue to see him. Unfortunately I let the Dominicans trim me which resulted in a cut. When I went out with Boy #1 in the following days he said damn, “what happen I thought you was getting a trim not a chop”. I knew it was short but keep that comment to your self. Funny how women will nurse the male ego by not telling them their flaws but not men. He was comfortable letting me know basically he wasn’t feeling it. We stop dealing with each other shortly after for other serious reasons but every now and then he will call and check up and also has the guts to ask if my hair grew yet. JACKASS!
Boy #2, I didn’t care to go out with him much but I did anyway cause I was bored (a bad habit of mine). We met at a club and he was buying the drinks so after a while I felt sorry and gave him my digits. I told myself to never answer but when I’m bored and its summer I’ll pretty much go with the flow. As soon as I stepped in his car he said,“ummm wasn’t your hair longer?”No, as a matter of fact when we met my hair was pinned up but even though it was pinned he knew there was some length…. Right! That really wasn’t the case my hair was the same length but he wanted to believe otherwise. I told him if he wants I could get out the car and go back home or go find my hair & have it sewn back together. Boy #2 only lasted that night he was very unattractive but had money so I guess he felt that entitled him to speak his mind. Wrong.
Boy #3, I liked him the most. We were together most of the summer but when I expressed that I wanted to get a short cut he gave me a mouthful. He stated that my hair was already short so what am I trying to accomplish. Again, my hair was short but I was talking about cutting it into a style, a lil rihanna-ish. He told me no instead I should get a long bob with bangs. WTF, we were in the beginning stages of dating so this was a bit annoying. At some point I was thinking is this what it would be like, me trying to keep him by any means necessary even changing my look for him. I’m not an insecure chick but stuff like this can mess with a girl’s mind. Weaves of course was out of the picture to him actually to all of them.
After my summer of asses I decided to take that leap and get the cut I wanted. For a few years I’ve been eager to try it and said to hell with them and do me. A few months later I happen to see all of them and to my surprise they all seemed to appreciate it. To lil to late they already showed their ass and it was a wrap for me. I realize today that you really can’t take what men say to heart just do you and do it well they’ll either love it or not and if not peace out and kick rocks cause there are many that will.
