Ladies,Ladies,Ladies isn't hard to move on from a guy when they tend to pop up every now and then to see if your still single and mess with your emotions? I could say this about a particular guy but the case is a few of them love to do this. Seriously, leave me alone or is that what I think I want you to do? Within the last yr. I've dated two guys that I met around the same time of each other. They both just so happen to pop up around the same time…all the time; my birthday,christmas & now summer. I'm even to the point where I have to double book them, sounds fun doesn't it. As of right now I'm"pretending" not to care because I truly know how this game goes oh to well.
I text, call and go on a few dates with both. Guy #1 always wants to go out and have a good time, whereas, Guy #2 prefers to stay home and cook. Both nice times & it seems that I have the upper-hand but towards the end I never do. They're both getting my time and heart but never enough to commit. Each gives me a speech on where we could be if we both tried, but thats just talk, I am always 100% in I don't do the 50%. No point to be in a relationship where your doing most of the work and the other is just coasting by.
The pattern I have come to learn with both guys is nothing new or different from others…. it comes down to sex. When sex hasn't happened well within the comeback stage that's when the calls and text stop and I'm back to square 1. You can't comeback months later and expect the same reaction every time. If you want me then you have to be comfortable with my timeframe but then again their not.
July 25, 2010
July 01, 2010
Naughty or Nice?
As I reflect on my blog and life I have notice a pattern with the men I date. They are all different but one thing that links them is that many are assholes. Is it me?, why do I attract so many characters? Most of the men tell me that I'm a hard female to crack and can be a tad bit sarcastic and mean so why stick around? My adjectives are always feisty, sassy and strong never have gotten sweet or gentle. So as I reflect I wonder do I attract assholes because I'm one myself?
Personally, I have always been a bold, outspoken person and thats not gonna change while in a relationship.So if you date me I'm pretty sure you have notice that beforehand. In the beginning its all interesting and entertaining but that fades into the darkness after a few months and everyone has to return to their corners.I'm over the mess and because I have let me guard down seem to no longer be a challenge anymore. I just don't see why it has to be like two soldiers on the battlefield every single day, why can't we be on the same side instead of opponents. I might be a tough girl but I have to be to many men come with BS and I got to nip the ish early. At the end of the day I am still a woman and can appreciate romance and chivalry. WHERE HAVE THE DAYS GONE?
My new thing is to try and be sweet and maybe I'll get that in return but know it will be hard to change a side of me that has been around forever… its my edge. I would love to say "to hell with it all and if a guy can't handle my smart mouth then he isn't for me," but at the stage of my life where I'm ready maybe it is me and change is needed. Can't be an asshole and want a gentleman.
Personally, I have always been a bold, outspoken person and thats not gonna change while in a relationship.So if you date me I'm pretty sure you have notice that beforehand. In the beginning its all interesting and entertaining but that fades into the darkness after a few months and everyone has to return to their corners.I'm over the mess and because I have let me guard down seem to no longer be a challenge anymore. I just don't see why it has to be like two soldiers on the battlefield every single day, why can't we be on the same side instead of opponents. I might be a tough girl but I have to be to many men come with BS and I got to nip the ish early. At the end of the day I am still a woman and can appreciate romance and chivalry. WHERE HAVE THE DAYS GONE?
My new thing is to try and be sweet and maybe I'll get that in return but know it will be hard to change a side of me that has been around forever… its my edge. I would love to say "to hell with it all and if a guy can't handle my smart mouth then he isn't for me," but at the stage of my life where I'm ready maybe it is me and change is needed. Can't be an asshole and want a gentleman.
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