More and more recently I hear from both genders that titles are not as important as they once were. If the substance is there than "what's in a title?" that question always baffles me,if the substance is there then why not the title. Why do men (particularly) feel that they can date a women for months even years before giving her the proper title girlfriend or even later down the road wife. How do you introduce this said person… this is my "FRIEND" or this is "Jada," nothing more. Don't they deserve something more?
I have ran into this problem a few times in college where the guy said we know what we are to each other and that's all that matters. He may flirt with other girls but at the end of the night he's coming to be with me, its working for his friend so why am I being so difficult. I was not a fan of the deal he was putting in front of me and eventually we no longer existed to one another. It didn't work for me then and it won't now. A title just lets the female and the world know that you are committed to something… hell someone! How can we be all about you or trusting if you won't give us the respect that you ask of us.
Why does a title change so much?
August 25, 2010
August 11, 2010
Sex = Security?
When starting a new relationship I may seek advice from one of my close male friends from time to time and the topic we are on as of late is that of SEX, when is it the right time? He never understands why females hold out when men need it in their life.Guys may do 1/3 things; cheat, leave or respect your boundaries and wait. My friend reassured me that waiting is not the option most men prefer. When a guy is spending money and going on dates that is to lead to something more, so at the end of the night a kiss on the "head" wink wink is not enough. So with that said, it may lead guys to believe that another man is reaping the reward of their work.I can actually say I understand where he is coming from but don't agree with the reasoning.
Where is it stated that men need sex often, I mean come on now! Women, especially one that has been through some BS with men want to protect their selves and sex is one way…sometimes the only way. Not to be evil or hold anything over someone we just know that most change their ways or views rather after they receive every ounce of us.
Sex can be security for a man in a way I never thought of because it shows that the female is their's ( its not regular for a woman too have to many partners at one time). While for us girls, withholding sex is our security, feelings are not as strong and if we were to get hurt at least we have our respect. So who's security out weighs the others? No one wants to get hurt, but in most cases the female holds that tittle.
Where is it stated that men need sex often, I mean come on now! Women, especially one that has been through some BS with men want to protect their selves and sex is one way…sometimes the only way. Not to be evil or hold anything over someone we just know that most change their ways or views rather after they receive every ounce of us.
Sex can be security for a man in a way I never thought of because it shows that the female is their's ( its not regular for a woman too have to many partners at one time). While for us girls, withholding sex is our security, feelings are not as strong and if we were to get hurt at least we have our respect. So who's security out weighs the others? No one wants to get hurt, but in most cases the female holds that tittle.
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