Wait…… before you answer that get your mind from out the gutter it isn't what you are thinking, I'm talking about weight.We all want someone physically attractive but sometimes those are the ones that are the worst to be around.I am particularly not interested in dating co-workers but after a few mishaps I said why not. As me and a female friend of mine at work were discussing our most recent dates this chubby man named David walked onto the floor I have never seen him before but everyone knew who he was. He actually worked in human resources for the company but that was on a different floor from my office,same company two different floors. As my friend and I were talking about my situation he invited his self into the convo and later asked me on a date. Hesitation was my 1st reaction since it was random and we worked for the same company but then I couldn't help but notice his bulge and not the good kind. His waste line showed that he definitely didn't miss a meal. Just to be nice I went with it, I mean it was a free meal and couldn't be worst then what I had experience thus far. We kept planning to go for a week but I was always getting off later than him so one day I just said we both just got paid so when we going? It didn't take long for us to agree that night was our night.
On a Tuesday right after work we went out. Most people that work in the city take the train and I assumed we would do the same but to my surprised he drives to work so it was door to door service…Check! In the car we talked and he let me play whatever song I wanted which is nice, never once did he mention where he was taking me. Minutes later we arrived in Brooklyn at this cute Spanish spot and had lobster and salmon, drank out of fruits and never did I see the bill. The normal getting to know one another talk was quite easy. Afterwards, he drove me straight home which was a good 45 min. away but he did it. Funny how that night was one of my best dates ever, it was unexpected and entertaining.
A few days later he wanted to take me out again during our lunch break but that deemed to be a bit challenging. It was rush hour and I wanted to be on time whereas he was with the company longer so he didn't mind what time he got back in. The lunch date was so rushed I had to order something and eat it all within 15 mins. then had to hail a cab to travel 25 blocks back to work. Now I am running to the office but because he was a lil overweight could not get but so far without having to stop. Once we finally settled he was breathing so hard that he had to sit down and place he head between his knees, can't lie I was disgusted! David tried to get his self together and was gonna talk with my supervisor but that would not be necessary. No Thanks!
During that time I was contemplating taking a break from dating and he didn't make the cut. When I think about my good dates his always wins but I never see myself with him because I can't "see" myself with him. Is that too shallow? I mean we all want a good man but what if he arrives in a different package?Hmmm just thoughts.
I do not think size always has to matter, but it is about what a person is attracted to. If a person does not like someone with more weight than that is just what it is. I personally think it is more about a persons'face and personality than there physical apperance. If I like your face and have a connection with a man I do not really care if he is a little thick. I do have my limits on how thick, how short etc.
ReplyDeleteI think it was a good idea to try something different with David, and it was a good date. Too bad he disgustedd you, I know what that is like..it is pretty much done if they cause that feeling. ;)